Thoughts on the Second Pregnancy

This could easily turn into a long, rambling post about all of the thoughts I’ve been having regarding the major differences (at least for me) between the time when you’re expecting your second baby vs. your first – but I’m going to force myself to at least try keep it succinct. I wasn’t even sure if this was worthy of a blog post, but behind the curated fashion and home and recipe posts that are planned well in advance into our editorial calendar, there is real life me, sitting here at my computer, listening to my toddler sing loudly downstairs and feeling the fluttering kicks of a tiny baby in my belly, pondering what life will be like with two and how different things feel this time around. So I figured I’d share at least a few of these thoughts, because this is what’s going on lately in my head, dudes.

A first pregnancy (or process of adoption, I’m certain) is an overwhelmingly exciting period drenched in newness and the unknown and tiny details and celebrations and expectations and nervousness. There was so much planning while I was pregnant with Essley – items we “had” to buy, nursery design, breastfeeding and birthing classes, baby showers, birth plans, home projects (my nesting instinct was out of control), etc. The baby-on-the-way consumed our lives, and looking back, I understand why. We had no idea what to expect, and I felt a lot of pressure to do things “the right way.” Of course, the excitement part of it all was pretty great, but there was as a lot of stress as well.

While I’m equally as thrilled for this one to arrive, it’s a different kind of excitement. Robbie and I are both so much more laid back about all of it (sometimes to the point where I’m like, “Should I be worried? Am I blowing things off? Should I be preparing more?”). I guess I just feel generally more at ease, both because I’m more experienced this time and because I’m wiser in terms of the reality that it’s not going to turn out how we’d plan for it anyway. The majority of the products we bought because we were absolutely sure we’d need them for Essley we rarely used. My insane Type A scheduling of my work around what I thought would be her sleeping schedule for the first few months went out the window immediately. She barely even hangs out in her immaculately planned/designed nursery space. So maybe this is the reason why for #2, I haven’t even thought about where the baby will sleep (and don’t even know for sure if we’ll be buying a larger house before or after the baby’s arrival), or what things we’ll need to get, or how I’ll schedule work, or much of anything at all. And as for the pregnancy itself, with Essley, I thought about the fact that I was pregnant constantly. This time, I’m much more focused on other things, to the point that sometimes I’ll be doing something and suddenly I’ll get a wave of nausea or feel exhausted and it will hit me – “oh yeah, I’m pregnant.”

It’s actually pretty cool how different I feel this time around. It’s not better or worse – it’s equally as awesome, but in a contrasting way. The pregnancy itself has been physically very similar to my first, but the way I’m dealing with it/feeling about it is another experience entirely. Unlike the first time, this isn’t an unknown full of intense sparkle and butterflies – it’s a more subtle, comfortable anticipation. And I’m grateful to feel this way, and for the way I felt last time too. It genuinely feels like a gift to be able to appreciate such different things about each pregnancy. It will be interesting to see how things progress, and if I’ll start to feel anxiety about preparations later or if this mellow feeling will continue. Either way, I’ll take it.

For those of you who have had more than one child, either via pregnancy or adoption, how was your experience different the second time? Was it similar to mine in terms of being more laid back than the first? I’d love to hear about in the comments (or via email).

(Top image from my last pregnancy, because unlike my almost weekly belly shots with #1, I haven’t even bothered to take any pictures this time. I guess maybe I should get on that?)

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Dec 4, Wanting to make my own dog food

Hi, I just watched a video on the truth behind dog food and dog food manufacturers… I cried like a baby (I’m a 40 year old man). It’s a sin the lies
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#PawPromise Adoptable Dog of the Week: Oreo

This handsome fellow is Oreo, a young Pit Bull Terrier mix who is currently in the care of the Animal Care Center of St. John in St. John, US Virgin Islands. This adoptable dog is about one year old,…



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Well said, Winnie.

Well said, Winnie.
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The St. Louis Home & Garden Show is Missouri?s Largest Home Product Market Place

St. Louis, Missouri (PRWEB) January 31, 2015

One of the largest quality consumer home shows in North America, the Home & Garden Show gives local consumers the opportunity to see, learn about and buy the latest home products and services from more than 400 companies under one roof. The Builders Home & Garden Show is actually six shows in one, showcasing the latest in Lawn & Garden, Kitchen & Bath, Interior Design, Pool & Spa, Building Products and Green Products. More than 1,800 booths fill nearly 400,000 square feet and provide consumers with an excellent buying opportunity, competitive pricing and side-by-side comparison between companies. Visitors can shop for patios, pools, outdoor lighting, decks, windows, doors and everything imaginable for the home. Experts will be on hand to answer questions.

Five beautiful gardens will be filled with fabulous flowers, water features and the newest ideas for yards and gardens. In addition to the feature gardens, there will be patio and landscape displays from dozens of companies. Attendees can learn how to create fabulous outdoor spaces with the latest hardscape products at the Belgard Hardscapes Outdoor Living display. Belgard will be showcasing a brand new line of outdoor elements, the Bordeaux series. Show visitors can register to win a Bordeaux outdoor fireplace worth $ 5,000 and enjoy music from local artists at the Music Garden.

The Lifestyle Stage will have seminars by local and national experts. Shannon Quimby, HGTV alumni, salvage designer and author, will inspire people to reuse items commonly considered trash. She will demonstrate how to turn junk into beautiful home and garden d

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The Big 5 of Vet Med: You know you’re a vet when….

If you have ever had the good fortune to go on safari, you know that everyone talks about the “Big 5″: rhino, lions, elephants, cape buffalo, and leopards. The term was coined by game hunters and refers to the difficulty in getting all 5 because of their ferocity when cornered, but now is mostly used by safari operators as a virtual checklist of animals one must see in order to consider it a successful outing.

When I was working on the book, I tried to pick out a combination of stories that laid the foundation for life in general practice. Along the way, I discovered some of the stories that I thought were so hysterical and weird has happened to EVERY SINGLE VET I know. Now that I’ve been out for a long enough period, my classmates and I can all nod our heads like the sage old people we’ve become and say yes, we’ve earned our stripes, done that.

So in honor of this, I present to you the Big 5: You know you’re a vet when edition. Once you’ve experienced the Big 5, you know you’ve made it.

1. The undercover detective dog

Dogs eating underwear is like the giraffe of the veterinary world: yeah, you see that everywhere. No big deal. The rare and treasured lion of the underwear eating world, on the other hand, is the dog who manages to not only eat something unpleasant, but bust a cheating boyfriend/girlfriend/spouse in the process. Dogs who poop out a red thong that doesn’t belong to the wife. Dogs who vomit up a condom wrapper. Interestingly enough, the dog is almost always the closer companion of the wronged party. They know. They always know.

Family picture of three lions. Taken in Masai Mara national park, southwest Kenya.

Family picture of three lions. Taken in Masai Mara national park, southwest Kenya.

Animal rating: lion. It’s messy, it gets your adrenaline going, and you are so glad you are in the car and not out there with the lion when they go in for the kill.

2. Involuntary nude client exam

No veterinarian wants to see a naked client. This is why we are veterinarians and not physicians. Nonetheless, with the MD shortage out there and the easy access to veterinarians, it is only a matter of time before a client tries to slip in a totally inappropriate question while you’re examining a pet, complete with stripping. In my case, it was a woman who pulled her shirt down and asked me to examine her breast. I consider myself lucky: a colleague once had a client ask her about hemorrhoids and was halfway to dropped trousers before she got him to stop.

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Animal rating: Leopard. It sneaks up on you. You can usually chase it away by yelling.

3. The accidental grope

Physical examinations are, by their nature, very hands on. Most clients get this, but on occasion there will come one who refuses to let their pet out of their protective embrace. Usually the pet in question is a small, heavily haired squirrelly dog. There is only so much you can do when a chihuahua is placed squarely in a woman’s bosom before getting an unintended handful of human. This can vary in embarrassment level from mildly mortifying to near criminal, depending on the client, the location of the pet, and their outfit. Lesson learned: any male clients in running shorts must place the pet on the table, no exceptions.

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Animal rating: elephant. Fine from a distance, dangerous up close.

4. The client who makes ass-umptions

I don’t think we spend a disproportionate amount of time dealing with pet’s rear ends: anal glands, rectal exams, fecal exams are but a small part of the work we do- but for some reason some clients get it in their heads that 99% of our interactions with a pet is via their rectum. “Oh no!” they say, when we get the thermometer ready. “Gird yourself, Tommy!” etc etc. These same clients have a hard time believing that medications are administered in any manner other than per rectum. Here’s the kicker: You don’t get to check this item off your list until you’ve been asked about whether each of the following is administered in this manner: Advantage, dewormer, antibiotics, pills of any kind, chlorhexidine scrub.

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Animal rating: cape buffalo. Comes in herds. You never know what they’re thinking.

5. Face full of anal glands

You are a seasoned practitioner. You know all the tricks about how to angle your thumbs and cover your target area with a paper towel. You know to evaluate glands by feel, how to note the tell-tale pressure of an impacted gland that is prone to blow. It will never happen to you, you say. You are careful.

It will happen to you.

It will happen to you in a moment you let your guard down, when you’re looking over your shoulder to answer a question and the glands sense an opening. You won’t see it coming. One minute you’re chatting about someone’s tapazole refill, the next moment you’re standing over the eye flush station screaming for Altoids and crying. Two hours later, you will relay the story to your family at dinner with great relish, laughing while the waiter makes a moue of horror and rushes away as quickly as possible. Because that is how vets roll.

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Animal rating: rhino. A rare and memorable interaction you are unlikely to repeat but will talk about forever and ever.

How long does it take the average vet to complete the Big 5 Vet Safari? Did I miss any? I’m sure I did.

 

Pawcurious: With Veterinarian and Author Dr. V

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Standard Process Veterinary Formulas Goes Beyond the Brush with New Supplement


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Standard Process Veterinary Formulas introduces VF Bio-Dent

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Thriving in Babylon: Why Hope, Humility, and Wisdom Matter in a Godless Culture by Larry Osborne (Book Review)

My rating: 5 of 5 stars From the book of Daniel, 1:3-7 “…. Now among these were of the children of Judah, Daniel, Hananiah, Mishael, and Azariah: Unto whom the prince of the eunuchs gave names: for he gave unto Daniel the name of Belteshazzar; and to Hananiah, of Shadrach; and to Mishael, of Meshach;…



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Painting the Roses Red

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It’s pub day! The book is out at long last! I really hope you all enjoy it- All Dogs Go to Kevin has truly been a labor of love. (That link goes to my new website. Did I mention I have a new website? It’s been so busy around here I think I forgot.)

Last weekend I went to Warwicks to sign the preordered books. Brian and the kids were at ComicCon, so I went to Warwicks by myself. It was a short task, no more than 20 minutes, so I couldn’t figure out why I was so bummed about going alone, and then I realized ohhhh. It’s another one of those moments.

The thing I will miss most about my mom is not the big celebrations, the ones everyone goes to: holidays, book signings, that sort of thing. It’s the little celebrations, the moments no one else would think mattered, but she always did. If she were around, she would never have let me go alone. She’d go with me, we’d get lunch, then she’d talk me into shopping for a little while in downtown La Jolla. But she’s not here, so my twenty minute task was just that- 20 minutes in a little bookstore office with a Sharpie feeling terribly sad.

I’m trying not to let my sadness get in the way of being happy, but it’s so hard not to have her here. We have a series of white rosebushes in our backyard that bloom almost year-round, and I really like them because they remind me of my parents’ yard. Plus, it made it really easy to send random nosegays to teachers and the like since they were always blossoming, scattering white petals all over the grass like confetti. Mom loved them too, of course.

Brian- not so much. He’s been threatening to pull them since we moved in. He’s been talking about it again the last few weeks, and I made him promise to leave me at least one or two, for Mom, and he said, “OK.”

This afternoon he had someone come over to give us a quote for doing some of the backyard work. I peered through the window to make sure Brian saw me giving him the evil eye- not ALL the rosebushes, ok??- and I noticed something I had never seen before in all the time we’ve been here:

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Someone’s been painting the roses red.

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The roses stay, obvs.

It’s funny how the moments that impact are not the large and grandiose gestures, but the fleeting surprises that hit you like a much needed breeze. How I can be sad about a less than perfect rose in my garden when so many people in this world know nothing but weeds? Mom’s here in every sunset and every butterfly and her love feels no less potent for the lack of her physical presence.

It’s a beautiful day here in San Diego. The book is out and it’s my fourteenth wedding anniversary- a date traditionally marked by ivory but now the theme is “animals.” Mom sent flowers. How can I complain?

 

Pawcurious: With Veterinarian and Author Dr. V

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